As a parent, I experienced lots of rewarding, fulfilling, and happy moments. I also, experienced a lot of difficulties and challenges that created a lot of stress. If you are a parent and feel unsure about what to do at times, you have a hard time dealing with day to day parenting issues, and you get stressed trying to keep up with everyone and everything, know that you are not alone and that you are already doing an amazing job!
As a therapist and parent, I will periodically be sharing some parenting tips from lessons learned and knowledge I gained through my education and experience working with children, teens, and parents. I am hoping that these tips will help support you with parenting your children.
My first parenting tip is to remind parents to practice self-care. If you are too stressed, you will most likely be less patient and effective as a parent. So you have to take care of yourself and your needs first before you can effectively take care of others.
Self-care routines may be different for each individual. For some, it might be a little pampering such as getting a massage or taking a long soothing bath, or it might be visiting a friend of family member, doing Ibadah, or going to the gym. A more effective self-care routine is one that is part of your daily life rather than something you resort to only when you are stressed and overwhelmed.
Whatever you chose to do for self-care, remember that it is not always about indulging or spoiling yourself, but it could be in the form of asking and receiving help from others when needed, setting healthy boundaries with individuals who tend to be needy, not engaging in self-blame and self-judgement, and to stop saying “yes” when you want to say “No”.
Take the time to reflect on what makes you feel re-energized, calm, and peaceful. Do more of that. Be kind and compassionate to yourself.
An empty lantern provides no light. Self-care is the fuel that allows your light to shine brightly.” Unknown